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I often think the rest of the world has gone mad. This is quite a normal state of affairs for me. There is one particular cause that I think really needs promoting, the cause of real women.

Fashion and show business are filled with a tiny unrepresentative sample of thin women and thin women with artificial breasts. This is absolutely absurd as the real world is full of much more variety of shapes and sizes and better, more beautiful real women. Women who have hips and thighs and feminine curves no matter how the dress is cut. Let me get this quite clear, I am not talking just about breasts, although I have nothing against a pair of breasts big enough to make ear muffs out of. I am talking about natural and normal female body shapes. That means fat.

Female bodies are naturally smooth and their curves softened by fat. That is one of the facts of life that too many people try to deny.

Women with no fat are not attractive, well not to me anyway. Women with no fat only appeal to photographers and gay men looking for a female that is not really too female, a tall thin boy to model their clothes or whatever else they are selling.

Look at how models stand. They cross their ankles. Weird. Why do they do that? Because their legs and hips have little real shape to them, only by crossing their ankles do they give the impression of legs that get wider at the hip. Have you ever stood with one hip pointing up and the corresponding shoulder pointing down? Very rarely. It is another pose designed to make a she-boy look like a woman, by exaggerating the curves on one side of the body at the expense of the opposite side. It works because the man's eyes are drawn to the exaggerated curve side and they ignore the now very boyish side. For the gay men and women looking at the picture the opposite applies, the stretched side of the waist has no evidence of fat and so looks even more boyish.

Fashion models do not do glamour modelling and vice versa. To be a fashion model a woman needs to be very tall and slim with very small pert breasts. Glamour models are generally significantly shorter and curvier. Glamour models look great naked but have to be careful how they dress. Fashion models can wear anything, and should, because they look better with their clothes on.

	Renée Zellweger is supposed to have put on 28 pounds to play Bridget Jones, I would say that millions of women should do the same, she looks just right. Female. I recently saw a paparazzi photo of Andrea Corr topless, all I can say is that she looks far more attractive in her videos, with a dress on.
Women need curves.

Being a normal male my ideal woman does not exist, ideal is not one woman but several. If I am forced to specify an ideal physical type then I would have to suggest a woman in the mould of Kate Winslet, who is actually very much closer to the average western woman's shape than most models or stars. If I could pick a harem full of women there would be a couple of petite and cute ones (like Kylie, but with a personality) a few curvy middle sized women like Kate Winslet, a few really big (tall and strong) women like Lucy Lawless and a few much more feminine and, yes, fat. I cannot understand why women strive to be thin. Thin is not attractive. How much do you think Playboy would pay Paula Radcliffe to keep her clothes on?

Geri Halliwell looked fantastic when she was in the Spice Girls and at the time of her first solo album but for a time she has made herself thin, scrawny and muscular. Who wants a thin, bony and assertive woman with small breasts who can only keep that shape by smoking, eating such a poor diet that she needs vitamin injections and exercising all day? In what way can that be attractive? What kind of man wants a woman who would do that to herself? When men show a preference for thin women they are really wanting genuine waifs, teenagers, not self-made wrecks. A desire for a thin woman is partially a fear of adult women.

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Is this trend to disparage female fat perhaps caused by the influence of gay men in the arts, music and fashion? I think this is a strong possibility.

Gay men do not find women sexually attractive, they prefer men, when women look more androgynous they get more compliments from gay men. Women don't know what men want, that is almost self evident from observing them, they have to react to the clues they pick up from the culture. As the gay man's fashion image of the tall androgynous figure with token breasts is highly regarded that image is fed back into the system of copying and imitation. There is very little pressure to resist that process because heterosexual men in the world of haute couture either don't exist or have all gone native and might as well be gay as they have to show the same camp tastes in order to get on in the industry. The fashion industry is constantly feeding a stream of images of freakishly tall and thin models into the wider culture, diluting the perception of what is normal and what is desirable with images from the extreme tall and thin end of the bell curve.

But of course I'm wrong aren't I? Nobody could expect to believe that people would be irrational about their appearance and what they actually liked, would they? How could we copy each other's tastes so much that we started to behave completely irrationally? Well, all I can say is look this girl in the eye and imagine telling her that you thought she would look prettier without the tattoos and piercings, what do you think she would say? Our capacity for mutual self-deception is enormous.

Andromeda by Pieter Pauwel Rubens c 1638 One of probably seven different versions of this painting. Nudity, bondage and a classical theme. How could it go wrong? His public obviously shared a similar taste in women to make this image one of the most popular pin-ups of its day.

We like what we think the rest of us like and we are constantly checking our tastes against those of the community. My contention is that modern western tastes have been heavily dominated by inputs from the aversion of gay men to womanly features and to the social stigma of obesity being linked with poverty, via low esteem and low self image leading to eating disorders among the underclass in affluent societies. In most cultures poverty is not linked to obesity, it is linked to starvation. The poor of the era of Rubens were emaciated women, like Andrea Corr or Kate Moss, who would have been considered thin and dangerous, not at all attractive, whereas now the poor are often obese.

Another implication of the effect of media and the averaging out of attractive features is that it is now becoming almost genetically impossible to be attractive without cosmetic surgery. The reason is the effect of women of different races on popular culture. The ideal woman is a white black woman (Angelina Jolie for example) or a black white woman, depending on your race. Mariah Carey is a classic example, because she has some African genes she is considered to be black enough to be a legitimate target for the lusts of black men without affecting their “street-cred”, despite the fact that a typical Chinese peasant would have difficulty in picking her out as black from a line up of blondes from a Ku Klux Klan rally. At the same time white men are now looking for white women who look like they have been punched in the mouth, and so many white women like Pamela Anderson and others are having cosmetic surgery to give themselves the lips that less than 1% of white women have by birth. Think about it, draw up a mental list of the supposedly most attractive women in the world, are they typical of their race or are they more like super-mongrels? Japanese women with large round eyes, white women with very full lips, black women who are very pale beige, the same shade as their tanned blonde friends. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Does it just allow women to be even more dissatisfied with their bodies?

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What species is this “ideal” woman? Whose ideal? Do you know any women like this? Angular, thin, disdainful, self-absorbed and terminally shallow. Why would any woman aspire to be like that?

What heterosexual men want is women with feminine curves. What does this have in common with images drawn by fashion designers? Impossibly tall and thin, possibly a couple of conical breasts the size of walnut whips at best. It cannot be a coincidence that most fashion designers are homosexual men or surrounded by them. The fashion industry is run by people who find real women literally repulsive. What do catwalk fashion models do? Nothing, not even smile. Sulk and smoke. Is that an image that anybody should be aspiring to? Even Barbie is a better role model.

Some sports make men look more attractive, building up muscle and toning the body. However I have not seen many top woman athletes who looks really attractive. The best way to make a female body less attractive is to try too hard. Moderation is the key, a nice balance been muscle tone and a sensible covering of body fat makes the smoothest and most feminine of curves. Glamour models do not pump iron.

An explanation of some women's irrational urge to look muscular is that muscles on a woman are always her own work. Unlike her breasts, which just grow. A woman has no real right to feel proud of her breasts as if they reflect on the inner woman, they are irrelevant to the virtues of the person. No women have noticeable muscles without working on them. Women very often get into strange value judgement situations, seeing everything in terms of good and evil. Breasts are not good because they arrive without effort. Muscles are good because they are earned by hard work. So having small breasts and large muscles makes her a better woman, better as in more good, rather than more desirable. A similar tendency is seen in anorexia, with muscles being replaced by lack of weight. Being very thin takes will power and effort, bad women cannot be thin... How many times have you heard women talking about food in terms of good and evil rather than healthy and unhealthy? Food is a moral issue for millions of women.

Women should be told again and again that food is not a moral issue, if women want to be moral they should find something more altruistic to be moral about than their own vanity and self image.

Palaeolithic men valued larger women. Female fat was a sign of well being, plenty and the ability to survive hard times. In the days when hunting provided a large proportion of our food having a fat wife was the equivalent of driving a Ferrari. Fat women are great fun to have sex with too.

Far too many women these days are trying to lose weight who really shouldn't bother. If they are doing it to appeal to men in general they are probably wasting their time. If they are doing it for a specific man they should ask themselves if any man is worth punishing themselves for. Being a different shape or size will not make you a better person, it will not, of itself, make you happier. Many women starve themselves into a different body shape and find that, to their amazement, they are still the same person, they have not become happier, more worthy of love or respect. I am not alone. I am not peculiar. There are millions of men out there who think women should look like women, who see beauty contests and genuinely think the models would look better if they filled out a bit. Men who look at the before and after pictures on slimming advertisements and think the younger woman looks better. We have been silenced by the pig-ignorant louts who pedal the common line that thin women are more attractive, they must be, there aren't any fat women on TV, except comediennes...

Palaeolithic Venus figurines like this are quite common across Europe. They have been interpreted as fertility symbols but I think this is incorrect. The figures are actually very accurate depictions of beautiful young women. They are slightly stylized and have exaggerated proportions, but the exaggeration is of a similar degree (but opposite direction) to that in 99% of sketches made by modern dress designers, whose weird willowy creatures would be much more comfortable on a planet with no wind and significantly lower gravity, not to mention no men. If the Venus figures were fertility images they would show huge nipples. Those breasts are large but young, they have never suckled a child. They are actually, I believe, idealized images of virgin brides, the perfect fantasy princess, and they are sculpted by men who know what beautiful young fat women look like. The hands that first held that stone would have known the feeling of such curves. They would have known women like that (but with faces and feet) and would have appreciated their beauty.

“To ask women to become unnaturally thin

is to ask them to relinquish their sexuality”

Naomi Wolf

“You think Kate Winslet is a BIG woman?” Asks my wife. No darling, not as big or as beautiful as you. But my point is not that only big women are attractive. Women of all shapes and sizes are attractive, but our society is obsessed with an unnatural thinness, and we don't see enough women of average size let alone larger than average size being portrayed as desirable. Kate Winslet is seen by many people in the media as “chunky” when the correct observation would be that she is a beautiful woman of normal size. She could lose 10 pounds or more and still be attractive, and that is a good thing, if women are so thin that any weight loss is going to make them look painfully thin or sick then they cannot be at the optimum weight. Fat does not exist to make women look weak and measure their lack of worth, it is an energy store to maintain health. Healthy normal women need some fat. Normality and desirability should be a healthy range of sizes not an impossible goal defined down to a single ideal dress size or weight. Millions of women look at the images of stars the media call fat and promptly give up on the idea of ever being desirable, perversely the obsession with thinness is making women fatter. If you stand no chance of winning the game why should you be seen to be trying?

We need a lot more people with the courage to say that women like Dawn French can be spectacularly beautiful, despite being clinically obese. We see far too many painfully thin women paraded in front of us and held up as role models, we need some balance. No woman is ever beautiful or ugly because she is fat or thin. Of course you can be too fat, or too thin. Balance is required. An ugly woman who puts on weight becomes an ugly, fat and unhealthy woman. But no chart on a doctor's wall can make a beautiful healthy woman ugly.

The balance will not be achieved by pornographers selling pictures of grotesquely fat women as objects of curiosity. The internet is stuffed full of sites proclaiming their content as big beautiful women but most of them are vile and degrading to women in general and their models in particular. The balance can best be achieved by men and women telling other people to keep their narrow minded opinions to themselves rather than constantly bleat on about people and their weight. Some women will be beautiful whatever their weight, and others will be ugly and unhappy whatever their weight. You cannot measure anything of value by weight or dress size.

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